| Introductions
and meeting or dating |
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place is called manjau, definition manjau is how to meet or visit home girls
who are well known in a relationship in order to preclude. There are two
kinds of manjau type IE |
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| Manjau
above is carried out in the room of the man met the woman living in the
House. |
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| Manjau
dibah meeting men and women do in the home kitchen, that a girl should pay
attention to some norm of 1. At the time of running kedapur the youth not to
be noticed by nakbay start or relatives girl 2. If the servant met with other
people and he had to cover his face with his gloves 3. Should not interfere
with the peace of a sleeping person. manjau who follow the norm is called
setekutan/sesihaan time manjau conducted at 20.00 until 23.00 hours,depending
on the agreement. The servant girl's dialogue with whispering, the girl was
in a dimly lit kitchen and servant outside, both using the headscarf/holsters
with the intent that their faces not visible |
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| the
other man have the right to greet the woman after obtaining permission from
the man who had promised in advance. a man who had asked permission to greet
women are allowed but not too long just about 3-5 minutes. man-man embraced
the principle that before mating belonging together, i.e. a healthy
competition among his fellow men to get the hearts of women. |
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| Setekutan
done over time e.g. 15 days before a wedding, for ulun lampung (people) are
already a tradition of mutual help and help from taking the pie, mashing the
rice and others. Throughout the span of time at home that had a party never
deserted so almost every night if every house there are mean to visit his
daughter. |
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| Two
days before the party there are usually events grind spices Cookbook, his
show is only for men and women to prepare the marinade Cookbook. This event
started from 8 until 11 pm finished the job grind spices to Cook, the girls
take the place disudut-sudut the kitchen which can be heard between the two
partner each other. Mass setekutan events are known and controlled by the
head of man to avoid unwanted things. |
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| If the
boy and girl agreed to marry the girl. boy and girl was brought to legitimate
parent-level talks called "kicek's nyakko" if they gave his desire
to mate to uncle or pak balak (big
father) and aunt inalunik, and pack each initial task was to determine his
soul mate. If the man and girl mandate was submitted to her aunt and uncle
both parents of the boy and girl. Then
the whole House will prepare the pre-marriage event. |
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| B.
limitation of a partner in marriage |
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| Restriction
endogami in marriage or dating people of lampung (ulun lampung) saibatin at
krui is a endogami strata. That every child must mate with penyimbang
children punyimbang anyway. However such restrictions no longer exist. Krui
people got a strong beach culture influences particularly from the
Minangkabau and Bengkulu islam |
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| According
to a Mas Kausar punyimbang, ulun Krui in the limitation of Shari'a Islamic
law embraced a soul mate. In Islamic law based on the Quran, there are
provisions about people that should not be called marriage lacing news, as
related by blood, marriage, and the relationship of the Islamic connection. |
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| c. Apply nyakakko or kicek'an |
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| A
normal marriage is a marriage that was preceded by the proposal from the male
party to the girl. The proposal would establish rapport and bonding
engagement between the male-girl and promises between two relatives, which is
then followed by the customary ceremonies such as marriage ceremonies Fall
Diah (nayuh). Diah nayuh or fall are great for wedding festivities-major in a
row. To get to the festivities, this paper will start with an event proposal. |
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| If
the results of the first mission after the scene (rated) family and relatives
of men with good results, then prepared to step onto the stage of a second
visit. On a second visit to the home of the girl, a member of the delegation
more from first visit because it involves members of women and girls. The
number of delegates is composed of five men, three women and two girls.
Degelasi has the main purpose to reconnect on the promise of that first
visit. After the word agreed among women to the altar which was delivered by
her aunt or uncle to both parents men women, then the men's family sent two
or three person family near to the home of the girl. For the first purpose of
the Envoy's visit was to ask if it is true among men the girl they've been in
a relationship, and had reached as far as the relationship between them. The
second purpose of the Envoy is to observe or nindai how the behaviour of
girls aspiring to be so it's son-in-law. The third objective was to observe
the status of the family or lineage, economics, and religion. |
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| And
the second goal to negotiate about the pattern of the second marriage of the
sons of these girls. The choice of this pattern menurutu customs saibatin
there are only two, namely the first and second bujujogh semanda. If this
pattern is appropriate and can be agreed on both families., it also
determined at that time anyway for my next visit. On this second visit groups
of betel sekapur brings as a symbol of good relations, juwadah, wajik, cake
and fruit that shows just how good and the warmth of their arrival. |
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| After a
second visit from the man, then there are still a few more visits to
strengthen the application process the man against a party girl and to meet
the various requirements demanded by the party girl, for example, the problem
of determining jujogh and dowry. |
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| d. the
determination's dowry was |
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| Terms of
marriage usually consists of three kinds of things, namely: (a) 's dowry was
the price-beride, or (b) the outpouring of energy for mating or
beride-service, (c) exchanges of girls or beride-exchange. |
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| Price-beride's
or dowry was or is a treasure that was given by the youth to the girl, and
the allies. The function's dowry was the many tribes in Indonesia is as a
condition. Because of the terms, then usually people don't ask again why or
for what. People just know that it's dowry was provided, and should be done.
On the contrary, as a condition's dowry was then mixed with elements that are
relevant to the trust. |
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| The
pattern of marriage bujujogh ulun lampung separates two understanding between
(1) 's dowry was with (2) jujogh or daw. The sense of the first is the
grant's dowry was the bridegroom to women at the time of contract marriages,
namely goods which are used on a daily basis, such as: gold jewelry, real
money, fabric filters, kebaya, slippers, mirrors and other bathroom
garments.Second, jujogh or daw (spirit/inner) is more meaningful guarantees
of living against women because he sparated with the family that gave birth
to and raised him. Daw is a female parent requests against the elderly man,
about his son's life assurance. Daw is a treasure not normally moves such as
rice paddies, fields, houses. So a woman who has been in the (it) jujogh,
then only the same role with the mother or her husband. Therefore, one girl
in the (it) jujogh is acting as a surrogate mother to her husband and has the
right of ownership (rice paddies, fields, gardens, etc.) is the same in the
life of a family. |
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| Daw or
jujogh is a request guarantees of the elderly woman's family and relatives
terhadapa men, while women's dowry was a request of the groom. If the woman's
family disagreed with the prospective groom, then subtly yet be denied how to
request jujogh or that exceed the capacity of the ability's dowry was male.
Conditions like these are sometimes led to a trade-off to drag the
negotiations for months. When events like this do not find a solution, often
the case consensus between man-girl to elope or miktudaw. |
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| Miktudaw
or eloped due to his own girl unisex men planned by parents, based on the
will of man or a girl because of the will of man. |
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| Background
boy-girl miktudaw among other things: (1) the terms of payment, financing,
and the requested party to the wedding ceremony the girl could not be filled
by males. (2) the girl not allowed by her parents for a husband but due to
the circumstances of the girl's own Act, (3) or the family of the girl's
parents refused to cover the man, then the girl acted alone, (4) the girl was
engaged to someone who is not liked by the girls, (5) girls and men have
committed contrary to customary law and religious law (the girl was pregnant
and others). |
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| Determination
of dowry is done at the time of the application, namely at a time when the
man doing the visits third. The purpose of this third delegation at its core
is a dull ache baban or have loads. Ask the family burden of intent to
negotiate a request from the family of women, i.e., money issues, jujoghnya's
dowry was, and how the payout. On this third visit groups of betel sekapur
bring that show how easy their journey. |
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| After
a subsequent agreement the men send their emissaries returned for the fourth
time. Groups of this time consisted of thirty participants from three
elements, which consisted of seven men, four people traditional swordsman
mirul or wife punyimbang custom, seven men and gadis kebaya were seven men
wearing caps and gloved a hanging, and five guards. They were bringing all
women party requests, IE: money, money's dowry was jujogh, buak or custom
cakes, such as juwadah, cucor diamonds, mandan, salimpok hard fruit and fruit |
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| The
Entourage was greeted with nyambai dance by the time the men and women
(Mulei-mekhanai) from the women as a tribute to the family of the groom.
Mulei-mekhanai of mutual acquaintance and showed dance skills respectively,
with kulintan and tambourine ulok tabuh bertalu-talu, weak-girl Dance kebaya
were supple, nga adido (song)-mamak (uncle) rapipi, and completing cover
events, so the girls can just wait for semangu or the time of day of
marriage. |
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| The
preferred marriage |
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| (mulang
mik lamban) / back to go home |
