CULTURE OF LAMPUNG : THE MARRIAGE RITUALS OF INDIGENOUS KRUI SAIBATIN

Introductions and meeting or dating

The place is called manjau, definition manjau is how to meet or visit home girls who are well known in a relationship in order to preclude. There are two kinds of manjau type IE

Manjau above is carried out in the room of the man met the woman living in the House.

Manjau dibah meeting men and women do in the home kitchen, that a girl should pay attention to some norm of 1. At the time of running kedapur the youth not to be noticed by nakbay start or relatives girl 2. If the servant met with other people and he had to cover his face with his gloves 3. Should not interfere with the peace of a sleeping person. manjau who follow the norm is called setekutan/sesihaan time manjau conducted at 20.00 until 23.00 hours,depending on the agreement. The servant girl's dialogue with whispering, the girl was in a dimly lit kitchen and servant outside, both using the headscarf/holsters with the intent that their faces not visible

the other man have the right to greet the woman after obtaining permission from the man who had promised in advance. a man who had asked permission to greet women are allowed but not too long just about 3-5 minutes. man-man embraced the principle that before mating belonging together, i.e. a healthy competition among his fellow men to get the hearts of women.

Setekutan done over time e.g. 15 days before a wedding, for ulun lampung (people) are already a tradition of mutual help and help from taking the pie, mashing the rice and others. Throughout the span of time at home that had a party never deserted so almost every night if every house there are mean to visit his daughter.

Two days before the party there are usually events grind spices Cookbook, his show is only for men and women to prepare the marinade Cookbook. This event started from 8 until 11 pm finished the job grind spices to Cook, the girls take the place disudut-sudut the kitchen which can be heard between the two partner each other. Mass setekutan events are known and controlled by the head of man to avoid unwanted things.

If the boy and girl agreed to marry the girl. boy and girl was brought to legitimate parent-level talks called "kicek's nyakko" if they gave his desire to mate to uncle or  pak balak (big father) and aunt inalunik, and pack each initial task was to determine his soul mate. If the man and  girl  mandate was submitted to her aunt and uncle both parents of the boy and  girl. Then the whole House will prepare the pre-marriage event.

B. limitation of a partner in marriage

Restriction endogami in marriage or dating people of lampung (ulun lampung) saibatin at krui is a endogami strata. That every child must mate with penyimbang children punyimbang anyway. However such restrictions no longer exist. Krui people got a strong beach culture influences particularly from the Minangkabau and Bengkulu islam

According to a Mas Kausar punyimbang, ulun Krui in the limitation of Shari'a Islamic law embraced a soul mate. In Islamic law based on the Quran, there are provisions about people that should not be called marriage lacing news, as related by blood, marriage, and the relationship of the Islamic connection.

c. Apply nyakakko or kicek'an

A normal marriage is a marriage that was preceded by the proposal from the male party to the girl. The proposal would establish rapport and bonding engagement between the male-girl and promises between two relatives, which is then followed by the customary ceremonies such as marriage ceremonies Fall Diah (nayuh). Diah nayuh or fall are great for wedding festivities-major in a row. To get to the festivities, this paper will start with an event proposal.

If the results of the first mission after the scene (rated) family and relatives of men with good results, then prepared to step onto the stage of a second visit. On a second visit to the home of the girl, a member of the delegation more from first visit because it involves members of women and girls. The number of delegates is composed of five men, three women and two girls. Degelasi has the main purpose to reconnect on the promise of that first visit. After the word agreed among women to the altar which was delivered by her aunt or uncle to both parents men women, then the men's family sent two or three person family near to the home of the girl. For the first purpose of the Envoy's visit was to ask if it is true among men the girl they've been in a relationship, and had reached as far as the relationship between them. The second purpose of the Envoy is to observe or nindai how the behaviour of girls aspiring to be so it's son-in-law. The third objective was to observe the status of the family or lineage, economics, and religion.

And the second goal to negotiate about the pattern of the second marriage of the sons of these girls. The choice of this pattern menurutu customs saibatin there are only two, namely the first and second bujujogh semanda. If this pattern is appropriate and can be agreed on both families., it also determined at that time anyway for my next visit. On this second visit groups of betel sekapur brings as a symbol of good relations, juwadah, wajik, cake and fruit that shows just how good and the warmth of their arrival.

After a second visit from the man, then there are still a few more visits to strengthen the application process the man against a party girl and to meet the various requirements demanded by the party girl, for example, the problem of determining jujogh and dowry.

d. the determination's dowry was

Terms of marriage usually consists of three kinds of things, namely: (a) 's dowry was the price-beride, or (b) the outpouring of energy for mating or beride-service, (c) exchanges of girls or beride-exchange.

Price-beride's or dowry was or is a treasure that was given by the youth to the girl, and the allies. The function's dowry was the many tribes in Indonesia is as a condition. Because of the terms, then usually people don't ask again why or for what. People just know that it's dowry was provided, and should be done. On the contrary, as a condition's dowry was then mixed with elements that are relevant to the trust.

The pattern of marriage bujujogh ulun lampung separates two understanding between (1) 's dowry was with (2) jujogh or daw. The sense of the first is the grant's dowry was the bridegroom to women at the time of contract marriages, namely goods which are used on a daily basis, such as: gold jewelry, real money, fabric filters, kebaya, slippers, mirrors and other bathroom garments.Second, jujogh or daw (spirit/inner) is more meaningful guarantees of living against women because he sparated with the family that gave birth to and raised him. Daw is a female parent requests against the elderly man, about his son's life assurance. Daw is a treasure not normally moves such as rice paddies, fields, houses. So a woman who has been in the (it) jujogh, then only the same role with the mother or her husband. Therefore, one girl in the (it) jujogh is acting as a surrogate mother to her husband and has the right of ownership (rice paddies, fields, gardens, etc.) is the same in the life of a family.

Daw or jujogh is a request guarantees of the elderly woman's family and relatives terhadapa men, while women's dowry was a request of the groom. If the woman's family disagreed with the prospective groom, then subtly yet be denied how to request jujogh or that exceed the capacity of the ability's dowry was male. Conditions like these are sometimes led to a trade-off to drag the negotiations for months. When events like this do not find a solution, often the case consensus between man-girl to elope or miktudaw.

Miktudaw or eloped due to his own girl unisex men planned by parents, based on the will of man or a girl because of the will of man.

Background boy-girl miktudaw among other things: (1) the terms of payment, financing, and the requested party to the wedding ceremony the girl could not be filled by males. (2) the girl not allowed by her parents for a husband but due to the circumstances of the girl's own Act, (3) or the family of the girl's parents refused to cover the man, then the girl acted alone, (4) the girl was engaged to someone who is not liked by the girls, (5) girls and men have committed contrary to customary law and religious law (the girl was pregnant and others).

Determination of dowry is done at the time of the application, namely at a time when the man doing the visits third. The purpose of this third delegation at its core is a dull ache baban or have loads. Ask the family burden of intent to negotiate a request from the family of women, i.e., money issues, jujoghnya's dowry was, and how the payout. On this third visit groups of betel sekapur bring that show how easy their journey.

After a subsequent agreement the men send their emissaries returned for the fourth time. Groups of this time consisted of thirty participants from three elements, which consisted of seven men, four people traditional swordsman mirul or wife punyimbang custom, seven men and gadis kebaya were seven men wearing caps and gloved a hanging, and five guards. They were bringing all women party requests, IE: money, money's dowry was jujogh, buak or custom cakes, such as juwadah, cucor diamonds, mandan, salimpok hard fruit and fruit

The Entourage was greeted with nyambai dance by the time the men and women (Mulei-mekhanai) from the women as a tribute to the family of the groom. Mulei-mekhanai of mutual acquaintance and showed dance skills respectively, with kulintan and tambourine ulok tabuh bertalu-talu, weak-girl Dance kebaya were supple, nga adido (song)-mamak (uncle) rapipi, and completing cover events, so the girls can just wait for semangu or the time of day of marriage.

The preferred marriage

(mulang mik lamban) / back to go home